Tuesday, December 24, 2013
Who is watching and why it matters how we talk about homosexuality
Last Friday, a federal judge struck a fatal blow to Utah's amendment 3. The Facebook feed blew up. I have engaged in as many conversations as I could on those feeds. Some might even call me a troll because I engage even when I am not invited
Because people are watching that is why. I was reminded of this when I read a friends beautiful and eloquent response to his mother who was asking if his support for gay rights would change it it were his own child. He of course said no... and that people are watching. People in pain who are trying to find someone to talk to.
So when you are fighting equality in your Facebook feed who are you helping?
Are you standing up for your god?
Does he really need you to stand up to him?
Are you standing up for your church?
Are you on the church's legal team? Do they really need you.
Are you standing up for freedom and the constitution?
Are you a constitutional attorney... and don't you see the hypocrisy?
Who are you hurting?
You are likely hurting someone who isn't vocal. Someone who is sitting in the dark crying because they feel like there is something wrong with them. Someone who may be your child, sibling, maybe even your own parent. What they are is a human being who needs support, love and acceptance. They didn't ask for this and to ask them to deny who they are is harmful. To characterize their being as a "sin", as a "choice" as a "lifestyle" or one that is "not to be acted on" inflicts an undue amount of pain.
The LGBT community inside of Mormonism has one of the highest suicide rates. The LGBT community in the United States has a suicide rate that exceeds the national average. It is time we stop treating them like they are throw aways.
I am a supporter of equality. I support the choices consenting adults make out of love. I support teaching our children how to develop healthy fulfilling intimate relationships with whomever they love. It is not about sin. It is about humans.
Conversely, I do not support bigotry and on this blog I will identify bigots by first and last name. The world should know who you are. Those who are watching should know who is not safe.